Becoming Bakitza

An aspiring bakitza attempting to slowly take control of her journey


Don’t Jump Ahead

Dear Conscience,

I have to stop my mind from jumping ahead. Nothing will ever get done if I don’t focus on what’s in front of me. Yes, some planning and vision is needed. But this takes too much of my mindspace, fantasizing about something that’s months or years away (and maybe even not in the cards, if I don’t first solve what’s here and now).

For example, I started focusing on my finances now. A lot of things have to get addressed here. It’s a complex and anxiousness-inducing topic. And yet, this morning I was looking at house selling ads. I’m so very far away from buying a house, it’s something that I might never be able to do even. So why spend time on looking at ads now? My mind’s excuse is that I have to be looking so that I know what’s out there. Why? To se just how out of reach it is? Instead of spending this time getting myself financially safe, so that I can come a step closer to one day being sustainably housed.

For each sphere (right now finance), I only have the capacity to focus on 2 things at a time:

1. Building one new habit (6 billable hours per workday)

2. Finishing one project (setting up a regular transfer to an investment account)

Until either the habit is integrated, or the project is done (or on hold for external reasons), no significant time and effort can go to other steps in the pipeline. Otherwise, I just start ‘looking into’ a million solutions, and leaving everything unfinished – a lot of time for zero progress.

No jumping ahead. No housing ads. Bill hours. Set up an investment transfer.

Sincerely,

B.



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About Me

I got my first nickname when I was 4 years old. It was “bakitza”, which means ‘an old lady’. I’ve always been an old lady on the inside. And as I progress towards being an old lady on the outside too, I want to take control of this journey. To reach the full fledged bakitza level with a peace of mind I always associated with that life stage. I thought it would come on it’s own with age. But now I realize that I have to take control over the mess that my life currently is in order to be a thoroughly satisfied bakitza one day.

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