connection
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Connection
Dear Conscience, Saturday always seemed like the right day for Connection; with the workdays behind us, and end of the week still ahead of us, the right time to relax, connect, look around us, and reach out to others. What’s up? I started out thinking that this theme only needs some brushing up, but that Continue reading
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From Holiday Dread to Holiday Inspiration
Dear Conscience, The holidays…. Most of my life I didn’t think much of them. Then I thought that probably having the rituals is nice. A nice family memory and point of connection. Though I don’t really like going through the motions. Probably because I don’t feel entirely relaxed around the side of the family that Continue reading
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Add a Toddler to Both Sides of the Equation
Dear Conscience, My baby daughter is sick again. After just one week of finishing the antibiotic treatment for her last illness. She’s sleeping on my chest now, I’m exhausted and worried, and all I care about is for her to be well again. This is just as I’m supposed to go for a first work Continue reading
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Calls With Friends
Dear Conscience, As I might have listed previously, I’m bad at very many things. But one thing I’m relatively good at, is keeping friendships. Keeping friendships takes time, and I do not regret my time spent on it. I genuinely appreciate the many people I’ve had the opportunity to call friends in life, who are Continue reading
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Skipped a Day, but Not In a Bad Way
Dear Conscience, Today was always going to be a day when I don’t check off any tasks. We met a friend with her family, then had a birthday lunch with our extended family. On such a day, I should just try to leave my backlog anxiety behind, and not expect any actual progress on the Continue reading
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Cozy up on a Rainy Saturday
Starting early today, realizing I’ll have to incorporate this more officially into my routine, like one would journaling anyway. Seems that really for something to become an automatic habit, it can’t just be “I’ll do it at some point today”. Anyway, while forming habits is a big pain point, today is connection day. And yet Continue reading
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Family Building Blocks
My nuclear family is small: me, my husband, and our daughter. And it’s relatively new, our daughter is a year old, and it didn’t really feel like a family yet when it was just the two of us. But this feeling of family doesn’t come naturally, at least that’s how I feel in our case. Continue reading
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Presents. Ugh.
Given how overwhelmed I am today by the anxiety over the state of my life, I probably should have used today’s theme, Connection, to have a coffee with a friend. But I ended up doing what I like least about friendships: went to go get some presents for kids of friends that I’ll see over Continue reading
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Saturday: Connection
While a lot of the concepts focus on getting myself and my immediate surroundings on track, I do want my weekend concepts to be less self-involved. It’s hard to have a happy life while only focusing on self. Saturday is a perfect day for focusing on connection. Connecting with family, friends, strangers, and with what’s Continue reading
About Me
I got my first nickname when I was 4 years old. It was “bakitza”, which means ‘an old lady’. I’ve always been an old lady on the inside. And as I progress towards being an old lady on the outside too, I want to take control of this journey. To reach the full fledged bakitza level with a peace of mind I always associated with that life stage. I thought it would come on it’s own with age. But now I realize that I have to take control over the mess that my life currently is in order to be a thoroughly satisfied bakitza one day.
Becoming Bakitza 