self-help
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The Cognitive Work – Implementation Intention
Dear Conscience, To improve the likelihood of succeeding in implementing the element number five from my Huberman plan (The Cognitive Work), I want to set out a detailed intention. Sincerely,B. Continue reading
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The Huberman Plan
Dear Conscience, Good morning! It is 7:30 AM, and I am sitting at the only non-smoking cafe in the neighborhood open at this hour. I have started exploring how I might implement elements of the Huberman morning routine into my lifestyle. There we go. I’ve only really implemented number 1 and 2 today. Tomorrow I Continue reading
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Huberman Wife
Dear Conscience, I ran across this ‘Andrew Huberman craze’ online, people trying to implement his science-based habits and routines. I didn’t look his recommendations up in detail, but here are the basic morning routine instructions I jotted down from skimming a youtube video: It does sound appealing to have such a productive morning. I also Continue reading
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A Slight Mind Shift in the Right Direction
Dear Conscience, I am encouraged today by the repetition of a similar pattern as yesterday. Yes, I feel under the weather still. Yes, I have three and a half unwatched seasons of the Crown at my fingertips. I enjoyed the one episode I watched on mute while rocking my daughter to sleep. But I didn’t Continue reading
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Calm With Forecast of Anxiety
Dear Conscience, Today was a lovely day with my daughter. We spent a lot of time outside, playing, exploring, and relaxing. And we even managed to run a load of laundry and a load of dishes, as well as change the bed sheets. Maybe it doesn’t sound like much, but it was one of the Continue reading
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Take It Easy but Not Lazy
Dear Conscience, I am taking it easy today. I am still getting over this cold or flu, and I want to use the weekend to recover, in hopes that I don’t carry this sickness over into next week. At the same time, a day taken easy doesn’t have to be a lazy day. My old Continue reading
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Scratch That!
Dear Conscience, I found my pen! The one for my digital notebook that I thought I lost for most of today. I was CONVINCED that I had left it, embarrassingly enough, at a McDonalnds (yes, another vice I need to deal with). But it was instead under a couch pillow! I already ordered a replacement, Continue reading
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Favorite Tool Missing
Dear Conscience, I did start relying a lot on my digital notebook (Remarkable 2). And today, I lost the pen. I also only realized now in my frantic search for a replacement, that I spent more money than necessary by buying the “official” pen and cover, while many other brands produce functional pens using the Continue reading
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Accountability to My Own Conscience
Dear Conscience, Another sick day. I did get one thing out of the way that only required an email, even though I didn’t even feel like sending that. But one low effort but important thing out of the way. Otherwise, I need to just keep thinking productively and not continue sliding downwards more than this Continue reading
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No Sick Days for the Disease of Procrastination
Dear Conscience, Today my daughter feels a little better, yet I feel a little worse. But to reiterate my realization from yesterday – I wouldn’t feel this guilty and terrified if I had not procrastinated before, while we were not sick. This black hole of anxiety devouring me, is the fear that this sick leave Continue reading
About Me
I got my first nickname when I was 4 years old. It was “bakitza”, which means ‘an old lady’. I’ve always been an old lady on the inside. And as I progress towards being an old lady on the outside too, I want to take control of this journey. To reach the full fledged bakitza level with a peace of mind I always associated with that life stage. I thought it would come on it’s own with age. But now I realize that I have to take control over the mess that my life currently is in order to be a thoroughly satisfied bakitza one day.
Becoming Bakitza 