self-help
-
Start With a Plan
Dear Conscience, It is the first day of the week, and the first day of the year. Seems like the ideal time for a start. Though I am tired, jet lagged, with a jet lagged toddler. So I won’t get much done today, but I can plan out the week. This week is a window… Continue reading
-
Inspiration
Dear Conscience, We’ve run through the week, and through the year! It’s Sunday, with the theme of Inspiration, just in time to open the door into 2024. What’s up? Inspiration is usually the initial spark, yet I put it at the end. Simply because I don’t have the mind space for it. I’m too worried,… Continue reading
-
Connection
Dear Conscience, Saturday always seemed like the right day for Connection; with the workdays behind us, and end of the week still ahead of us, the right time to relax, connect, look around us, and reach out to others. What’s up? I started out thinking that this theme only needs some brushing up, but that… Continue reading
-
Space
Dear Conscience, It is Friday, the day that I want to dedicate to the theme of the Space I inhabit. What’s up? I’ve tried to make space a first priority back when I started with this effort. It’s because I had always lived in a mass, and it’s weighed on my quality of life. I… Continue reading
-
Mind
Dear Conscience, On the day of Thursday, I turn to the theme of the Mind. My mind, to be specific. What’s up? I don’t think much of my mental health, though I know it would help if I did care for it more. I have ups and downs, I would like to be more in… Continue reading
-
Body
Dear Conscience, It is Wednesday, which brings me to the theme of Body, and how to care for this body I inhabit. What’s up? I’ve neglected my body. It’s allowed me to do so, but I’ve probably shortened my healthspan as a result. I haven’t exercised, I can safely say, in decades. Apart from a… Continue reading
-
Finances
Dear Conscience, Tuesday is here, and so is the theme of Finances. What’s up? This is probably the most anxiety-inducing topic in recent years. And not because I’m broke (I don’t feel broke in day to day life), but rather because I’m not on a sustainable path towards retirement. I’m turning 40 next year, and… Continue reading
-
Time
Dear Conscience, Kicking the final week of the year off with the Monday theme: TIME. What’s up? This is what most of my focus was over the past 6 months or so. I realized that my inability to use my time well would prevent me from achieving anything else in any sphere of life. What… Continue reading
-
The Closing Week of the Year
Dear Conscience, How fitting, that I had originally, earlier this year, envisioned my life improvement journey to be based on a weekly system, with each day focusing on one of 7 themes that I thought needed attention in my life. And this year, the last before turning 40, ends exactly on a Sunday, at the… Continue reading
-
From Holiday Dread to Holiday Inspiration
Dear Conscience, The holidays…. Most of my life I didn’t think much of them. Then I thought that probably having the rituals is nice. A nice family memory and point of connection. Though I don’t really like going through the motions. Probably because I don’t feel entirely relaxed around the side of the family that… Continue reading
About Me
I got my first nickname when I was 4 years old. It was “bakitza”, which means ‘an old lady’. I’ve always been an old lady on the inside. And as I progress towards being an old lady on the outside too, I want to take control of this journey. To reach the full fledged bakitza level with a peace of mind I always associated with that life stage. I thought it would come on it’s own with age. But now I realize that I have to take control over the mess that my life currently is in order to be a thoroughly satisfied bakitza one day.
Becoming Bakitza 