cleaning
-
The Night Formula
Dear Conscience, My 2nd core habit, after writing to you, is that I should stay away from a phone screen at night. Might not seem like a big deal, but I spent many a night awake, scrolling on my phone, feeding my biggest fears: serial killer Wikipedia bios, FOMO-tracking of crypto markets, cases of child Continue reading
-
Clear Floors
Dear Conscience, Today I avoided most of my to-do list in favor of doing one task properly – clear away all the mess covering the floors in our apartment. I opted for storing (i.e. hiding) it away, basically shifting the mess from the floors, to the closets, shelves and cupboards. I know that this is Continue reading
-
Space
Dear Conscience, It is Friday, the day that I want to dedicate to the theme of the Space I inhabit. What’s up? I’ve tried to make space a first priority back when I started with this effort. It’s because I had always lived in a mass, and it’s weighed on my quality of life. I Continue reading
-
My New Normal, Hopefully
Dear Conscience, Today is day 4 of my strict phone rules. I’m getting a hang of it. It was a good day. I spent the whole day with my daughter. And while she was sleeping, I cleaned up the kitchen. That was the time when I otherwise probably would have been on my phone, and Continue reading
-
Moving the News to Audio
Dear Conscience, A step back to get clarity on why I am failing, despite trying hard, to keep away from (1) scrolling the news on my phone. Or (2) searching the internet for random thoughts (and paranoias). Or (3) sometimes just trying to find random reasons to keep glued to my phone instead of facing Continue reading
-
Sense of Urgency About the Future
Dear Conscience, I am sitting in my living room, cleaner than it has been for a long time. Including the nooks that usually were just piles of stuff covered by a blanket, or shelves overflowing with clutter. Now, I am only talking about openly visible spaces. Open the cupboards or the drawers, and it’s mayhem Continue reading
-
How a Messy Life Messes with You
Dear Conscience, Here’s the problem with me trying to unmess myself: I have messes in so many aspects of my life that as I try to focus on cleaning up one, the other sets me back again. The current example is that a partner I collaborate with is in town, and I’ll host them. But Continue reading
About Me
I got my first nickname when I was 4 years old. It was “bakitza”, which means ‘an old lady’. I’ve always been an old lady on the inside. And as I progress towards being an old lady on the outside too, I want to take control of this journey. To reach the full fledged bakitza level with a peace of mind I always associated with that life stage. I thought it would come on it’s own with age. But now I realize that I have to take control over the mess that my life currently is in order to be a thoroughly satisfied bakitza one day.
Becoming Bakitza 