family
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I Don’t Like My Family… Doctor.
Dear Conscience, I am self-medicating. I haven’t been able to breathe properly for weeks now. And yet, I am not taking the step to visit my doctor. I don’t trust my family doctor. She is old, and has misdiagnosed both myself and other family members plenty of times now. Which probably means that I should Continue reading
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Skipped a Day, but Not In a Bad Way
Dear Conscience, Today was always going to be a day when I don’t check off any tasks. We met a friend with her family, then had a birthday lunch with our extended family. On such a day, I should just try to leave my backlog anxiety behind, and not expect any actual progress on the Continue reading
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Cozy up on a Rainy Saturday
Starting early today, realizing I’ll have to incorporate this more officially into my routine, like one would journaling anyway. Seems that really for something to become an automatic habit, it can’t just be “I’ll do it at some point today”. Anyway, while forming habits is a big pain point, today is connection day. And yet Continue reading
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Family Building Blocks
My nuclear family is small: me, my husband, and our daughter. And it’s relatively new, our daughter is a year old, and it didn’t really feel like a family yet when it was just the two of us. But this feeling of family doesn’t come naturally, at least that’s how I feel in our case. Continue reading
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Saturday: Connection
While a lot of the concepts focus on getting myself and my immediate surroundings on track, I do want my weekend concepts to be less self-involved. It’s hard to have a happy life while only focusing on self. Saturday is a perfect day for focusing on connection. Connecting with family, friends, strangers, and with what’s Continue reading
About Me
I got my first nickname when I was 4 years old. It was “bakitza”, which means ‘an old lady’. I’ve always been an old lady on the inside. And as I progress towards being an old lady on the outside too, I want to take control of this journey. To reach the full fledged bakitza level with a peace of mind I always associated with that life stage. I thought it would come on it’s own with age. But now I realize that I have to take control over the mess that my life currently is in order to be a thoroughly satisfied bakitza one day.
Becoming Bakitza 