habits
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Huberman Wife
Dear Conscience, I ran across this ‘Andrew Huberman craze’ online, people trying to implement his science-based habits and routines. I didn’t look his recommendations up in detail, but here are the basic morning routine instructions I jotted down from skimming a youtube video: It does sound appealing to have such a productive morning. I also Continue reading
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Stumbling and Ironing
Dear Conscience, As I stated yesterday, the first week of a habit introduction is crucial, and needs full attention. Yesterday I stumbled, by falling asleep together with my daughter. So I didn’t have any evening routine when I’d usually put my phone away and then handle my to-do list. Sleep is important when I do Continue reading
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No Judgment, Just Habit
Dear Conscience, In order to successfully integrate a practice of managing a daily to-do list, it has to become a habit. In thinking this throng, I realized that my so-called 3 “basic” or “core” habits are more about following rules I set out for myself, instead of the “micro” “tiny” or “atomic” habits recommended more Continue reading
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I’m Very Close to Completely Breaking With My Phone Addiction
Dear Conscience, My 3rd and final core habit is under review today: the one about limiting my phone use. I’ve tinkered with this one a lot. Finally I realized that more guardrails is better. Now my phone is in “focus mode” 24/7, with even the browser locked unless I need it for justified reasons. I Continue reading
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Habit Review
Dear Conscience, I’m in the process of reinforcing my 3 basic habits. Yesterday I reviewed my Habit#1, which is writing to you daily. This habit is largely ingrained, and doesn’t need much building anymore. But it did need some refining: namely, I had to limit some negative externalities. Specifically, the urge to check the stats Continue reading
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Sleep Rhythm and Midnight Habits
Dear Conscience, I am rethinking my evening and night planning, so as to take into account my ”sleepiness waves”. Basically I would like to have an evening routine, and my intention is for it to happen after I put my daughter to sleep. However, often I get sleepy and fall asleep together with her. I’ve tried Continue reading
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Travel is a Habit Disruptor
Dear Conscience, Travel is disruptive to my efforts of building good and steady habits. I let go of even my basics, like phone use limits and sleep. And it shouldn’t be. Travel cannot be an excuse to leave all my efforts to date by the wayside. And here I am, having to go back to Continue reading
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Shedding Habits
Dear Conscience, It’s much easier to break habits than to build them. I guess I’ve known that, but I also see it in practice now. But this time, I’m seeing the good side of it: breaking a bad habit comes easier to me than expected. It took me probably 50 days of writing here to Continue reading
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Still on the Ground Floor of Progress
Dear Conscience, this will be my 99th day in a row that I am writing to you. This is now a habit, performed without need for willpower, without effort. I actually enjoy it. I feel like I need it in my day. Which helps me remember it even on days when the schedule is such Continue reading
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Starting is Important, But No Use Without Finishing
Dear Conscience, I had struggled a lot with starting things, so a lot of my focus recently was to get started. Now that I’m actually thinking more about what I’m starting (e.g. now it’s projects and habits related to my finances), I’m realizing that it’s hard to keep starting things if you leave them unfinished. Continue reading
About Me
I got my first nickname when I was 4 years old. It was “bakitza”, which means ‘an old lady’. I’ve always been an old lady on the inside. And as I progress towards being an old lady on the outside too, I want to take control of this journey. To reach the full fledged bakitza level with a peace of mind I always associated with that life stage. I thought it would come on it’s own with age. But now I realize that I have to take control over the mess that my life currently is in order to be a thoroughly satisfied bakitza one day.
Becoming Bakitza 