oliver burkeman
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Accountability to My Own Conscience
Dear Conscience, Another sick day. I did get one thing out of the way that only required an email, even though I didn’t even feel like sending that. But one low effort but important thing out of the way. Otherwise, I need to just keep thinking productively and not continue sliding downwards more than this Continue reading
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No Sick Days for the Disease of Procrastination
Dear Conscience, Today my daughter feels a little better, yet I feel a little worse. But to reiterate my realization from yesterday – I wouldn’t feel this guilty and terrified if I had not procrastinated before, while we were not sick. This black hole of anxiety devouring me, is the fear that this sick leave Continue reading
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Navigating Guilty Pleasures
Dear Conscience, today is Sunday, and an opportunity for course correction that I shouldn’t miss. I want to try to implement the 3+3+3 method the whole of next week. This means that today I get to take some of the to-dos off the table, to reduce the pressure to over clutter my to-do list. Here’s Continue reading
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Piloting the 3-3-3 Method for Getting Things Done
Dear Conscience, Today I implemented the 3+3+3 method for the first time. I did rush a bit and only kicked off the focus time with about a lo-minute delay. But I did it. And then at noon I stopped with the focus task, and stuck to doing the other tasks on the list. I could Continue reading
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The Focus Intention
Dear Conscience, Time-blocking sounds great in theory, but has not been possible for me. I simply never took my calendar entries seriously unless they involve other people. I want to block off 3 hours every workday for focused works. From 9am to noon. I’m doing my best to take it seriously this time. I wrote Continue reading
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To-Do, but With Focus
Dear Conscience, I am still experimenting with this to-do list effort. On one hand, I want to just develop a habit of keeping and managing a to-do list, even if I am not very good at checking things off yet. On the other, it feels pointless just transferring the same tastes to next day, without Continue reading
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Starting is Important, But No Use Without Finishing
Dear Conscience, I had struggled a lot with starting things, so a lot of my focus recently was to get started. Now that I’m actually thinking more about what I’m starting (e.g. now it’s projects and habits related to my finances), I’m realizing that it’s hard to keep starting things if you leave them unfinished. Continue reading
About Me
I got my first nickname when I was 4 years old. It was “bakitza”, which means ‘an old lady’. I’ve always been an old lady on the inside. And as I progress towards being an old lady on the outside too, I want to take control of this journey. To reach the full fledged bakitza level with a peace of mind I always associated with that life stage. I thought it would come on it’s own with age. But now I realize that I have to take control over the mess that my life currently is in order to be a thoroughly satisfied bakitza one day.
Becoming Bakitza 