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The Night Formula
Dear Conscience, My 2nd core habit, after writing to you, is that I should stay away from a phone screen at night. Might not seem like a big deal, but I spent many a night awake, scrolling on my phone, feeding my biggest fears: serial killer Wikipedia bios, FOMO-tracking of crypto markets, cases of child Continue reading
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Travel is a Habit Disruptor
Dear Conscience, Travel is disruptive to my efforts of building good and steady habits. I let go of even my basics, like phone use limits and sleep. And it shouldn’t be. Travel cannot be an excuse to leave all my efforts to date by the wayside. And here I am, having to go back to Continue reading
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Phone as a Tool, Not a Passtime
Dear Conscience. It’s so easy to fall back into old habits. A disruption like a trip or a disease, seems like a justified temporary excuse to leave all effort and consistency aside. The problem is, once the “excuse” is gone, the old habits are back. Like they never left. Annoying that it doesn’t take 66 Continue reading
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Disruptions
Dear Conscience, I need to stop using disruptions as excuses for breaking my rules. Last night I slept in the living room to be near the dog who’s recovering from surgery. Well, I couldn’t sleep well for a number of reasons. But it sure didn’t help that I spent half the night on my phone. Continue reading
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Refresher
Dear Conscience, I need a refresher on the rules. I’ve been writing to you every day now for 6 days. I haven’t done much else, but hopefully keeping up with this rule number one left me holding on to a thread of hope that I’ll climb back up. The next step is my second rule: Continue reading
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Streak
Dear Conscience, I’ve allowed the change in routine due to sickness to loosen my role about phone in bedroom at night. Yes, I want the phone close to myself when my daughter is sick, so I can call for help if needed without leaving her side. But that doesn’t mean I should use it as Continue reading
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Day Three of New Me
Dear Conscience, I’m checking in. This is day three, we might call it a streak 🙂 In practice, it’s semi-successful. I’ve implemented the phone rules to an extent enough that I did some bear minimum to-do’s which could absolutely not be postponed anymore. Did I make a dent in my backlog? Probably not. I also Continue reading
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My Phone Is My Enemy
Dear Conscience, It’s not a new realization that I waste my life on my phone. And I’ve tried weaning off several times, with short-lived success. It’s so much easier to slip back than to wean. This needs a permanent and focused commitment. I’m introducing two basic rules: #1) night time is between 9pm and 7am Continue reading
About Me
I got my first nickname when I was 4 years old. It was “bakitza”, which means ‘an old lady’. I’ve always been an old lady on the inside. And as I progress towards being an old lady on the outside too, I want to take control of this journey. To reach the full fledged bakitza level with a peace of mind I always associated with that life stage. I thought it would come on it’s own with age. But now I realize that I have to take control over the mess that my life currently is in order to be a thoroughly satisfied bakitza one day.
Becoming Bakitza 