sleep
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It Starts With Sleep
Dear Conscience,When I try to get back to life after such a big slump as recently, I have to start at the beginning. And the beginning is to get enough sleep. Among the many bad old habits I re-adopted recently, was delaying going to sleep in the evening. Given that I have to wake up Continue reading
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Stumbling and Ironing
Dear Conscience, As I stated yesterday, the first week of a habit introduction is crucial, and needs full attention. Yesterday I stumbled, by falling asleep together with my daughter. So I didn’t have any evening routine when I’d usually put my phone away and then handle my to-do list. Sleep is important when I do Continue reading
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The Night Formula
Dear Conscience, My 2nd core habit, after writing to you, is that I should stay away from a phone screen at night. Might not seem like a big deal, but I spent many a night awake, scrolling on my phone, feeding my biggest fears: serial killer Wikipedia bios, FOMO-tracking of crypto markets, cases of child Continue reading
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Sleep Rhythm and Midnight Habits
Dear Conscience, I am rethinking my evening and night planning, so as to take into account my ”sleepiness waves”. Basically I would like to have an evening routine, and my intention is for it to happen after I put my daughter to sleep. However, often I get sleepy and fall asleep together with her. I’ve tried Continue reading
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Body
Dear Conscience, It is Wednesday, which brings me to the theme of Body, and how to care for this body I inhabit. What’s up? I’ve neglected my body. It’s allowed me to do so, but I’ve probably shortened my healthspan as a result. I haven’t exercised, I can safely say, in decades. Apart from a Continue reading
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Travel is a Habit Disruptor
Dear Conscience, Travel is disruptive to my efforts of building good and steady habits. I let go of even my basics, like phone use limits and sleep. And it shouldn’t be. Travel cannot be an excuse to leave all my efforts to date by the wayside. And here I am, having to go back to Continue reading
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Still on the Ground Floor of Progress
Dear Conscience, this will be my 99th day in a row that I am writing to you. This is now a habit, performed without need for willpower, without effort. I actually enjoy it. I feel like I need it in my day. Which helps me remember it even on days when the schedule is such Continue reading
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Back to Basics
Dear Conscience, the big deadline is behind me. With the relief from the deadline came turn for all the high hopes of this post-deadline period, when I “finally have the thing behind me, and the time and mindspace for everything else”. Disappointingly, and yet unsurprisingly, I went off track immediately. I spent the night mostly Continue reading
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Disruptions
Dear Conscience, I need to stop using disruptions as excuses for breaking my rules. Last night I slept in the living room to be near the dog who’s recovering from surgery. Well, I couldn’t sleep well for a number of reasons. But it sure didn’t help that I spent half the night on my phone. Continue reading
About Me
I got my first nickname when I was 4 years old. It was “bakitza”, which means ‘an old lady’. I’ve always been an old lady on the inside. And as I progress towards being an old lady on the outside too, I want to take control of this journey. To reach the full fledged bakitza level with a peace of mind I always associated with that life stage. I thought it would come on it’s own with age. But now I realize that I have to take control over the mess that my life currently is in order to be a thoroughly satisfied bakitza one day.
Becoming Bakitza 